'Life isn't a Bollywood movie'
4 July 2013 1:40 AM IST
I'm getting married this year. This is arranged by my aunty. My husband is 10 years older than me. He looks very old and I can't imagine having sex with this unknown, old man! Help!
Suchi, Old Delhi
I fail to understand one thing. Was the marriage arranged without your consent? It seems you are unhappy with the match. Marriage is not a casual game. Age or looks are not the key ingredients of a good marriage but as you are so unsure about your sexual chemistry, I suggest, rethink ten times before you marry.
My brother is 5 years younger to me. I love him a lot but my mother and grandma always punish me for his mistakes. They never scold him. I feel very sad.
Riah, Baroda
This is a problem in many houses. 'Men' or 'boys' are treated as the royal class and we unfortunately suffer. This gender discrimination is not justified but we have been fighting this for ages. My suggestion, just chill and concentrate on your studies, hobbies, friends. Take up a challenge that one day you will grow to be good and successful human being. Life is not within the four walls, so let these obstacles not upset you. I'm sure, you are a strong girl and nothing will stop you from becoming a winner.
My wife refuses sex. We are married for last 15 months. And we had sex only twice. I'm disturbed.
 Navin, Punjab
Serious problem! She must be suffering the trauma of some physical harassment that happened in the past. You can casually chat up with her and make her feel comfortable. If she is still passive, just tell her 'you need sex and you are contemplating it with some other woman'. No wife can share her husband, I'm sure, this will work.
My husband refuses to visit a doctor. We are married for 5 years and I'm unable to get pregnant. My reports look normal but he is always making an excuse for not seeking medical help. What should I do?
Meenal, Noida
I suggest you beg, cry, fight and drag him to your doctor. Explain him your growing concern and if need be, rope a family or friend into this who might have better control on him. Right medical direction and patience will surely give the desired results. And if he is still adamant, just hug him one day and tell him you are pregnant!!! Let's see, what happens next...he's bound to do what needs to be done.
I'm a mother of a 3 year old. I have a new driver who's helping us. He's very attractive and I feel he likes me. What should I do?
Name withheld, Delhi
Life isn't a Bollywood flick. In real life, the guy helping you with your car should just remain a 'driver'. I insist, this flame shouldn't be allowed at all. He cannot control the steering of your life. If you need a companion beyond your marriage, have one. But, please not the driver!
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Suchi, Old Delhi
I fail to understand one thing. Was the marriage arranged without your consent? It seems you are unhappy with the match. Marriage is not a casual game. Age or looks are not the key ingredients of a good marriage but as you are so unsure about your sexual chemistry, I suggest, rethink ten times before you marry.
My brother is 5 years younger to me. I love him a lot but my mother and grandma always punish me for his mistakes. They never scold him. I feel very sad.
Riah, Baroda
This is a problem in many houses. 'Men' or 'boys' are treated as the royal class and we unfortunately suffer. This gender discrimination is not justified but we have been fighting this for ages. My suggestion, just chill and concentrate on your studies, hobbies, friends. Take up a challenge that one day you will grow to be good and successful human being. Life is not within the four walls, so let these obstacles not upset you. I'm sure, you are a strong girl and nothing will stop you from becoming a winner.
My wife refuses sex. We are married for last 15 months. And we had sex only twice. I'm disturbed.
 Navin, Punjab
Serious problem! She must be suffering the trauma of some physical harassment that happened in the past. You can casually chat up with her and make her feel comfortable. If she is still passive, just tell her 'you need sex and you are contemplating it with some other woman'. No wife can share her husband, I'm sure, this will work.
My husband refuses to visit a doctor. We are married for 5 years and I'm unable to get pregnant. My reports look normal but he is always making an excuse for not seeking medical help. What should I do?
Meenal, Noida
I suggest you beg, cry, fight and drag him to your doctor. Explain him your growing concern and if need be, rope a family or friend into this who might have better control on him. Right medical direction and patience will surely give the desired results. And if he is still adamant, just hug him one day and tell him you are pregnant!!! Let's see, what happens next...he's bound to do what needs to be done.
I'm a mother of a 3 year old. I have a new driver who's helping us. He's very attractive and I feel he likes me. What should I do?
Name withheld, Delhi
Life isn't a Bollywood flick. In real life, the guy helping you with your car should just remain a 'driver'. I insist, this flame shouldn't be allowed at all. He cannot control the steering of your life. If you need a companion beyond your marriage, have one. But, please not the driver!
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to -
[email protected]
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